There is a lot of online “NLP”, and promises to empower you with quick fix techniques, which are supposed to instantly alleviate all your problems, and “make you almost ”omnipotent.
The sad truth is NLP techniques are completely useless, unless you apply them into a context of understanding of how the person thinks.
If you don’t follow how the other person’s is thinking, on multiple levels, you cannot influence them.
It’s that simple.
The process to understand how another person thinks, how they make sense of their “reality”, how they make decisions, and keep themselves from succeeding, is deeply logical (even if it doesn’t make sense to others), and reflects their “expertise” at navigating through life.
To understand how they think, you need to be able to get out of the box of your own expectations, and access the mechanism by which you can uncover the process of their thinking.
If you wanted to understand, for example, how Beethoven was thinking while composing his masterpieces, you would need to know what questions to ask him, and how to formulate the right questions.
Only by virtue of answering these questions, could you start modelling Beethoven’s inner processes and recreate his results.
In other words, you would have to be able to get into his mind and replicate for yourself everything he does, to be able to do what he does.
Once you have been able to get into Beethoven’s mind, your task would be relatively easy.
The same process applies to facilitating change in others and in yourself.
You can change something in a meaningful way, only when you have been able to model how it was created and what is it made of.
The problem is, we often don’t have the tools to do that and we get in our own way. We project expectations onto others and attempt to interpret their actions through our own expectations. Most of the time we miss the boat.
This is why most traditional therapy doesn’t work. This is also why people have “relationship problems”, get into conflicts or get stuck in repeatedly negative interpersonal situations.
NLP is a science of human communication.
You will learn precise and specific tools to easily understand what is happening in a person’s mind. Empowered with this skill you will naturally facilitate change. This is where techniques are relevant.
After you have learned NLP, you will not only have eliminated your own inner limitations but become a powerful facilitator of true transformation.
You will become a wise parent, inspirational boss, a super star sales professional.
You will navigate through life with ease and natural confidence.
Fears, doubt and anxiety will have become a thing of the past. You will have taken control of your own mind and your results.
Human thinking is systemic. A human being is a cybernetic system and needs to be considered individually.
There are no shortcuts to strategic and systemic thinking.
NLP is hypnosis, a hypnotic model derived from Ericksonian hypnosis, which was the first strategic hypnosis.
NLP is a shortcut to many Ericksonian protocols, but in essence, follows the same exact steps.